We watched “24 Hours
in A&E” last night. Regular viewing, always good for a drama
and hopefully at least one happy ending.
Last night they
featured a newly married couple where sadly the wife had developed
leukaemia just a few months after the wedding. The interviews were
all very positive but it was clear to see that they were both
traumatised and they admitted that their lives had been put on hold
due to the sudden illness.
In one of her pieces to
camera, the wife mentioned how lucky she was to have someone close to
her to whinge and moan at when she felt down and everything was becoming
too much for her. She also said that she was feeling “very cross” a lot
of the time and that she had to take it out on someone. It was clear to
see as she spoke that she felt the benefits of sharing her anger and
negative emotions with someone, but the subsequent image of her
partner looking like she had the weight of the world on her shoulders
said a lot.
It was at this point
that I looked over at my wife to see if she had seen and understood
what had been shared. She had. We exchanged a knowing look although
no words were really necessary. We have discussed this often and she
is aware of the situation. I think it is important however for her to be
reminded that sometimes easing her own emotional well-being by
getting angry with others might make her feel better at the time
but it simply dumps all of the stress and negativity onto someone else. At times something a supportive partner may be happy with, but not all of the time.
A case of one person's
happiness destroying anothers.
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